To let Go

To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I can’t do it for someone else.

To let go is not to cut myself off, it’s the realization that I can’t control another.

To let go is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences.

To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands.

To let go is not to try to change or blame another, it’s to make the most of myself.

To let go is not to care for, but to care about.

To let go is not to fix, but to be supportive.

To let go is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being.

To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their own destinies.

To let go is not to be protective, it’s to permit another to face reality.

To let go is not to criticize, or regulate anyone, but to try to become what I dream I can do.

To let go is to fear less, and to love more.

Live and Work

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Father was a hardworking man who delivered bread as a living to support his wife and three children. He spent all his evenings after work attending classes, hoping to improve himself so that he could one day find a better paying job. Except for Sundays, Father hardly ate a meal together with his family. He worked and studied very hard because he wanted to provide his family with the best money could buy.

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Whenever the family complained that he was not spending enough time with them, he reasoned that he was doing all this for them. But he often yearned to spend more time with his family.

The day came when the examination results were announced. To his joy, Father passed, and with distinctions too! Soon after, he was offered a good job as a senior supervisor which paid handsomely.

Like a dream come true, Father could now afford to provide his family with life’s little luxuries like nice clothing, fine food and vacation abroad.

However, the family still did not get to see father for most of the week. He continued to work very hard, hoping to be promoted to the position of manager. In fact, to make himself a worthily candidate for the promotion, he enrolled for another course in the open university.

Again, whenever the family complained that he was not spending enough time with them, he reasoned that he was doing all this for them. But he often yearned to spend more time with his family.

Father’s hard work paid off and he was promoted. Jubilantly, he decided to hire a maid to relieve his wife from her domestic tasks. He also felt that their three-room flat was no longer big enough, it would be nice for his family to be ablt to enjoy the facilities and comfort of a condominium. Having experienced the rewards of his hard work many times before, Father resolved to further his studies and work at being promoted again. The family still did not get to see much of him. In fact, sometimes Father had to work on Sundays entertaining clients. Again, whenever the family complained that he was not spending enough time with them, he reasoned that he was doing all this for them. But he often yearned to spend more time with his family.

As expected, Father’s hard work paid off again and he bought a beautiful condominium overlooking the coast of Singapore. On the first Sunday evening at their new home, Father declared to his family that he decided not to take anymore courses or pursue any more promotions. From then on he was going to devote more time to his family.

Father did not wake up the next day.

How poor people live 

One day, a father of a very wealthy family took his son on a trip to the country with the firm purpose of showing his son how poor people live. They spent a couple of days and nights on the farm of what would be considered a very poor family. On their return from their trip, the father asked his son, “How was the trip?” “It was great, Dad.”

“Did you see how poor people live?” the father asked.

“Oh yeah,” said the son.

“So, tell me, what did you learn from the trip?” asked the father.

The son answered, “I saw that we have one dog and they had four. We have a pool that reaches to the middle of our garden, and they have a creek that has no end. We have imported lanterns in our garden, and they have the stars at night. Our patio reaches to the front yard, and they have the whole horizon. We have a small piece of land to live on, and they have fields that go beyond our sight. We have servants who serve us, but they serve others. We buy our food, but they grow theirs. We have walls around our property to protect us; they have friends to protect them.”

The boy’s father was speechless.

Then his son added, “Thanks, Dad, for showing me how poor we are.”

My mom had only one eye

My mom only had one eye. I hated her… She was such an embarrassment. She cooked for students and teachers to support the family.

There was this one day during elementary school where my mom came to say hello to me. I was so embarrassed.

How could she do this to me? I ignored her, threw her a hateful look and ran out. The next day at school one of my classmates said, ‘EEEE, your mom has only one eye!’

I wanted to bury myself. I also wanted my mom to just disappear. I confronted her that day and said, ‘ If you’re only gonna make me a laughing stock, why don’t you just die?’

My mom did not respond… I didn’t even stop to think for a second about what I had said, because I was full of anger. I was oblivious to her feelings.

I wanted out of that house, and have nothing to do with her. So I studied real hard, got a chance to go abroad to study.

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Then, I got married. I bought a house of my own. I had kids of my own. I was happy with my life, my kids and the comforts. Then one day, my Mother came to visit me. She hadn’t seen me in years and she didn’t even meet her grandchildren.

When she stood by the door, my children laughed at her, and I yelled at her for coming over uninvited. I screamed at her, ‘How dare you come to my house and scare my children!’ GET OUT OF HERE! NOW!!!’

And to this, my mother quietly answered, ‘Oh, I’m so sorry. I may have gotten the wrong address,’ and she disappeared out of sight.

One day, a letter regarding a school reunion came to my house. So I lied to my wife that I was going on a business trip. After the reunion, I went to the old shack just out of curiosity.

My neighbors said that she died. I did not shed a single tear. They handed me a letter that she had wanted me to have.

‘My dearest son,

I think of you all the time. I’m sorry that I came to your house and scared your children.

I was so glad when I heard you were coming for the reunion. But I may not be able to even get out of bed to see you. I’m sorry that I was a constant embarrassment to you when you were growing up.

You see……..when you were very little, you got into an accident, and lost your eye. As a mother, I couldn’t stand watching you having to grow up with one eye. So I gave you mine.

I was so proud of my son who was seeing a whole new world for me, in my place, with that eye.

With all my love to you,

Your mother.’

Prison Help!.

 

An old man lived alone in Minnesota. He wanted to spade his potato garden, but it was very hard work. His only son, who would have helped him, was in prison. The old man wrote a letter to his son and mentioned his situation:

Dear Son,
I am feeling pretty bad because it looks like I won’t be able to plant my potato garden this year. I hate to miss doing the garden because your mother always loved planting time. I’m just getting too old to be digging up a garden plot. If you were here, all my troubles would be over. I know you would dig the plot for me, if you weren’t in prison.
Love,
Dad  

Shortly, the old man received this telegram: ‘For Heaven’s sake, Dad, don’t dig up the garden!! That’s where I buried the GUNS!!’

At 4 a.m. the next morning, a dozen FBI agents and local police officers showed up and dug up the entire garden without finding any guns.

Confused, the old man wrote another note to his son telling him what had happened, and asked him what to do next.

His son’s reply was: ‘Go ahead and plant your potatoes, Dad. It’s the best I could do for you, from here.’

MORAL: No matter where you are in the world, if you have decided to do something deep from your heart, you can do it. It is the thought that matters, not where you are or where the person is.

EGO

Ego is generally used in negative notion. We blame ego for the friction that occurs in our dealings with our fellow beings and quarrels that have formed an inevitable part of our lives.  But in positive aspect, ego is necessary, for, it forms the most essential part  of our individuality. Without the sense of 'I' there can be no individuality at all. Even that we call self confidence is nothing but a refined and reinforced form of ego. A person's character depends largely on the type of ego he has. Egos can be classified as 'Trained Ego', 'Untrained Ego' and 'ill trained Ego'. A person of trained ego thinks nobly, acts gently and aspires for a sublime goal in life. Obviously, everybody enjoys his company as his conduct is very amiable and pleasant. For this very reason he is always happy because he promotes happiness to others A person of untrained ego remains busy blowing his own trumpet and making much ado about nothing. Such a person is like an empty vessel that makes much noise. A person of ill trained ego damages the very structure of life. With distorted ego he becomes the curse to the society. He is totally blind to the noble qualities in others. Moreover, with autocrat makes his surroundings a veritable hell where people tremble at the very sight of such person. Hushing the ego will only curb various faculties and shatter the personality. Therefore, suppressing ego is not the way to shun its mischief. It has to be properly trained and tamed so that it may assist us in our progress. So, training the ego is of paramount importance if we wish to have peace in the society.

Probortunity

This acronym obviously combines problem and opportunity. Though it seems to be different and impractical to our routine, this acronym carries a lot of sense with it. It advises us to visualise problem as an opportunity. How a problem can be defined? It can be a difference between a desired state and actual state. It can also be said as an intensive brainwork to find solution to a tricky situation. For some people everything seems to be a problem. A wise person has to prove by converting problem into opportunity. some people never dare to undertake a task for fear of obstacles They start and give up as soon as they encounter problems. People of wisdom never give up even though they are over-powered by problems again and again. Once we know how to tackle a problem, the problem itself ceases to exist. A problem is an entity not a permanent phenomenon, its only a crucial phase of time that would pass away tomorrow if not today. When a person sees difficulties in every opportunity he is a sad and unproductive person, if he sees opportunity in every problem he is a successful and creative person. It all depends how one looks at the problem. Most of the times, attitude becomes more important than the problem itself. Swami Vivekananda once said " life is the unfolding and development of a being under circumstances tending to press it down". Sometimes struggles are what we require in our life. Absence of problems may cripple us  and would negate our existence under the sun.

Generocity in action

One night a man came to our house and told me, “There is a family with eight children. They have not eaten for days,” I took some food and I went. When I finally came to the family, I saw the faces of those little children disfigured by hunger. There was no sorrow or sadness in their faces, just the deep pain of hunger. I gave the rice to the mother. She divided it in two, and went out, carrying half the rice with her. When she came back, I asked her, “Where did you go?” She gave me this simple answer, “To my neighbors-they are hungry also.”I was not surprised that she gave–because poor people are generous. But I was surprised that she knew they were hungry. As a rule, when we are suffering, we are so focused on ourselves we have no time for others.

–Mother Teresa

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Winners and Losers

¨ The Winner is always part of the answer;
The Loser is always part of the problem.
¨ The Winner always has a program;
The Loser always has an excuse.
¨ The Winner says, "Let me do it for you";
The Loser says, "That is not my job."
¨ The Winner sees an answer for every problem;
The Loser sees a problem for every answer.
¨ The Winner says, "It may be difficult but it is possible";
The Loser says, "It may be possible but it is too difficult."
¨ When a Winner makes a mistake, he says, "I was wrong";
When a Loser makes a mistake, he says, "It wasn't my fault."
¨ A Winner makes commitments;
A Loser makes promises.
¨ Winners have dreams;
Losers have schemes.
¨ Winners say, "I must do something";
Losers say, "Something must be done."
¨ Winners are a part of the team;
Losers are apart from the team.
¨ Winners see the gain;
Losers see the pain.
¨ Winners see possibilities;
Losers see problems.
¨ Winners believe in win-win;
Losers believe for them to win someone has to lose.

Remember: Some people succeed because they are destined to, But most people succeed because they are determined to.

some thought provoking Quotes 

• Hope sees the invisible, feels the intangible and achieves the impossible.

• Our own actions are our security, not other's judgements.

• No rules for success work if we don't work.

• Some people grin and bear it, others smile and do it.

• Keep evil at arm's length.

• Some have been thought brave because they didn't have the courage to run away

• Beast and beastality are different things.

• Be just before you are generous. 

• We easily believe what we desire.

• The best doctors are Mr Diet, Mr Quiet and Mr Merry Man. 

 What difference does it make 

A small girl was walking on a sea shore . Suddenly she saw lot of fish falling out of the sea and are struggling to dive back into the sea. The girl out of her compassion started throwing back fish one by one. But the fish were falling in abundance on the shore and there were lot of fish on the shore. But the girl kept on throwing fish one by one back into the sea. One man was passing though and saw the girl exhausted and asked what difference does it make if you throw them, there are still lot of fish on the shore and most of them would die. Then the girl holding a fish in her hand said "it makes difference to this fish" and threw it into the sea. Do not curse the darkness but try to lit a candle.